Between you, me, and the gatepost

The grammatically correct phrase is “Between you and me” and not “Between you and I“. So you can imagine how surprised I was to read that some very well-known authors (like Mark Twain, William Shakespeare, Henry Fielding, Ben Jonson and Thomas Moore) have used the phrase incorrectly (read the article on

If you want to know why it’s “me” and not “I”, take a look at Grammar Girl’s great explanation here.

By the way, “Between you, me, and the gatepost” means “confidentially”, and is an expression we use to tell someone that what we are about to say should be kept secret.

A tricky grammar point

What is correct? Do we say “good at”, “good in” or “good with”? That’s a bit of a tricky question.

Thankfully, has a good explanation here.

I fully agree with the writer. When it comes to using prepositions in idioms like these, it’s better to memorise them rather than trying to remember a rule!