Warning: Undefined array key "url" in /home/www/divi/wp-content/plugins/seo-by-rank-math/includes/modules/schema/snippets/class-author.php on line 41

Polite doesn’t mean indirect

Polite doesn’t mean indirect

She spent years trying to make her English “polite”
by making it indirect.

She thought she was being respectful.
In reality, she was making things harder.

Here’s what that looked like.

This felt safe:
“I was wondering if it might be possible to perhaps schedule a call?”

It sounds polite.
But the listener now has to work.

They have to guess what she wants.
And decide how to respond.

That’s not polite.
It’s tiring.

Direct doesn’t mean rude.

“Could you schedule a call for Thursday?”

Clear. Simple. Respectful.

And here’s the part many German speakers don’t realise.

English speakers prefer this.
They hear clarity as professionalism.

Because clear requests are:

  • easier to answer
  • easier to act on
  • easier to understand

Making things easier for others
is polite.

‘I should’ is not helping you.

‘I should’ is not helping you.

I caught myself thinking this last week:
“I should reply tonight.”

Then again:
“I should be more confident in meetings.”

Then the classic closer:
“I should really know this by now.”
Nice. Very motivating. Ten out of ten for panic.

Single-sentence reaction:
“Should” is not advice. It’s judgement.

“I should…” is the unhelpful voice in a smart coat.

It sounds sensible.
It feels responsible.
But it quietly adds pressure, guilt and noise.

But modern English gives you a simple switch.

Try this instead:

  1. Replace “I should” with “I choose to”
    – “I choose to reply tomorrow.”
    – “I choose to prepare more for meetings.”
  2. Or use “I’m going to”
    – Clear. Neutral. No self-criticism attached.

Same behaviour.
Less drama.
Much more control.

Action Point

  • Notice the next time you think “I should…”
  • Say it again, out loud, as “I choose to…”

Clear English helps everyone:
You sound calmer.
You feel more in charge.
And the voice in your head finally lowers the volume.

Can we leave it there for today?

Can we leave it there for today?

Welcome to this week’s Sparks Plus.
Short reflections and examples to help you speak up, respond and disagree in English without putting extra pressure on yourself.

Six short sections.
Easy to read.
Designed to reduce effort, not add more.


1️⃣ Quick Win

When a meeting is dragging on, you don’t need to be blunt to end it.

A very natural phrase is:
✔ Can we leave it there for today?

It sounds calm.
It sounds cooperative.
And it often works.


2️⃣ Real-World English in Action

A client said: We can finish the meeting now, or?

In English, that can sound abrupt.
Try one of these instead:

✔ Shall we wrap up here?
✔ I think we can stop here for today.
✔ Unless there’s anything else, we can end here.

Same intention. Softer landing.


3️⃣ Christine’s Pick

Fact Check: How Videos Are Recycled for Political Purposes (DW)

This short piece from Deutsche Welle explains how old videos are reused in new political contexts — and how to spot them.

You don’t need to agree with every topic.
Use it to practise:

  • following a real explanation
  • catching key words
  • understanding the main message without every detail

That’s the same skill you need in meetings and discussions too.

🔗 https://www.dw.com/en/fact-check-how-videos-are-recycled-for-political-purposes/a-75589380


4️⃣ Reader Question

Q: Is it OK to say “That’s all from my side”?

A: Yes – it’s very common in international meetings.
You can also say:
✔ That’s it from me.
✔ Nothing more from my side.

Clear. Neutral. Professional.


5️⃣ AI Prompt to Test

Try this in ChatGPT:

“Give me 5 natural English phrases to end a meeting politely. Keep them short and suitable for international teams.”

Pick one that sounds like you. Ignore the rest.


6️⃣ Spotlight

How to Break the Ice

If starting conversations in English still feels awkward, this short guide gives you simple, natural ways to open conversations — without forcing small talk.

It’s designed for real situations: meetings, networking, workshops.
No scripts to memorise. Just calm starting points.

👉 https://theenglishtrainer.gumroad.com/l/How-to-break-the-ice

‘Please find attached’ isn’t polite. It’s just old.

‘Please find attached’ isn’t polite. It’s just old.

I read recently about someone who still writes: “Please find attached…” Every email. Every attachment. Every time.

And apparently they’re lovely. Smart. Calm. Competent. Just… stuck in 2001.

Single-sentence reaction: Nothing has ever needed to be “found”.

Please find attached” doesn’t sound professional. It sounds cautious.

The old way (from the wild):Attached is the invoice. Please review it at your convenience. I’ll be back on 3rd September. Let’s discuss scheduling a follow-up appointment whenever you’re prepared.

Careful. Polite. Also long, formal and slightly nervous.

But modern English lets you keep the politeness and drop the padding.

The modern way:I’ve attached the invoice. Have a look when you can. I’m back on 3 September, and we can follow up then.

Same message. Less ceremony. Much more natural.

Action Point

  • If you see “Please find attached” in your drafts, delete it.
  • Start with what matters instead: “I’ve attached…

Clear English helps everyone: You sound confident. The reader relaxes. And nobody has to find anything.

More phrases worth leaving behind

While you’re updating your email habits, here are a few more expressions that quietly undermine your professional image.

“As per my last email…” Technically correct. Emotionally loaded. Anyone who receives this knows it really means: “I already told you this.” It puts people on the defensive before they’ve read the next sentence. Try instead: “Just to recap…” or simply repeat the key point without the reference.

“Please revert.” Common in some business cultures, but confusing in international contexts — “revert” means to go back to a previous state, not to reply. In global business English it can leave readers puzzled. Try instead: “Please let me know” or “I’d welcome your response.”

“Kindly do the needful.” Widely used, widely misunderstood outside South Asia. In global business English it reads as vague at best, and slightly archaic at worst. Try instead: Be specific. “Could you send the updated file by Friday?” is clearer in any context.

“I hope this email finds you well.” Not offensive – just exhausted. Everyone writes it, nobody means it, and most readers skip straight past it. Try instead: Get to the point immediately. Or if you want warmth, make it specific: “Hope your conference went well last week.

The pattern you’ll notice

All of these phrases share something: they prioritise formality over clarity. They were designed for a slower, more formal era of business communication.

Modern professional English is direct, warm and human. It respects the reader’s time. It says what it means – without ceremony, without padding and without anyone having to find anything.

Your turn

Which of these phrases do you still catch yourself writing? And what do you use instead?

You’re allowed to say you don’t like it

You’re allowed to say you don’t like it

A client said:
“I don’t like it. You hear every step.”

About a house.
And its wooden floors.

Clear. Calm. Direct.

No apology.
No softening.
No disappearing halfway through the sentence.

In English, clarity isn’t rude.
Vanishing opinions cause more tension than honest ones.

You don’t need stronger language.
You need a full sentence.

Quick win
Use:
“I don’t like it because …”
Then stop.


Optional alternative (slightly softer, same power)

If you want a gentler tone for some days:

Quick win
“I’m not comfortable with it because …”

Still clear. Still confident.