How to Get Honest Feedback

How to Get Honest Feedback

How to Get Honest Feedback

You’d like to get some good and honest feedback from someone on an idea, a draft or a performance? But how would you go about it?

Organisational psychologist Adam Grant asks for a score from 0-10.

He explains:

No one ever says 10. Then I ask how I can get closer to a 10. 

It motivates them to start coaching me—and motivates me to be coachable. I want to learn how to close the gap.”

So next time you’re looking for feedback, you might like to give this strategy a try. And if you do try it out, try and remember to tell me about it!

Do You Know the Feeling?

Do You Know the Feeling?

Do You Know the Feeling?

You’ve been working on something or dreaming about something for a long time. Too long, perhaps.Perhaps you want to launch a product or a service. Or you want to write a book. Or it’s something completely different you’ve been meaning to do.

Is this what procrastination looks like? (“Procrastination” in German is “das Zögern” or “Zaudern”).

Some say procrastination is good. And some say it’s bad.

I could tell you that I’ve been giving myself some time. It’s true. Perhaps I’ve lost precious time. I can’t say. But I’ve been collecting a lot of information. Perhaps more than I need. That maybe.

So what’s been holding me back? Is it fear of failing? Or is that perfectionism gets in the way.

It’s probably a mix of both.

So what can I do? I can decide to start now—imperfectly— and to optimise later. Working on the perfect model or plan, without implementing it, won’t get me anywhere.

And what about you? Have you been procrastinating? Is there something you’ve been meaning to do, but haven’t managed to finalise yet?

Try Something New for 30 Days

Try Something New for 30 Days

Try Something New for 30 Days

Is there something you’ve always wanted to do, but just haven’t? 

In this 3-minute TED Talk, Matt Cutts, talks about what he has learnt through 30-day challenges.

(You can add subtitles and even read the transcript if that helps you to understand him better.)

Why 30 days you might ask? Because, according to Matt, 30 days is just about the right time to develop a new habit or to break a bad habit.

I’ve always wanted to produce videos for my clients and potential clients, and will be getting started very soon.

So what about you? Is there something you have always wanted to do? If so, would you like to share it with us?

Your Elevator Pitch

Your Elevator Pitch

Your Elevator Pitch

Someone asks you what you do for a living. How do you reply?

Do you say, “I’m a … communication coach”?

According to international speaker and best-selling author Andy Bounds, this is not a good way to start a conversation.

Andy recommends that our introduction is intriguing—to capture the other person’s interest—and incomplete—so that they ask us for more!

He recommends we use a simple format:

1. ‘I’
2. a verb (‘help’, etc.)
3. what our clients are left with after they’ve worked with us.

So using the example above, you could say, “I help business owners communicate better with international colleagues and clients”. Or “I help people with difficult-to-explain products and services to explain them to a non-specialist audience“.

Hopefully your conversation partner will be interested, will want to know more and will then ask you “How do you do that?

And now you’ve got off to a good start and the communication can flow.

Imagine that I ask you what you do for a living. How could you reply?

It’s a Vicious Circle

It’s a Vicious Circle

It’s a Vicious Circle

Do you know the problem? 

You can feel you’ve gained weight . You’re feeling a bit depressed because of it. (You don’t want to buy a new pair of trousers again!) And then you console yourself with some chocolate and a bag of crisps you found in the cupboard. Of course, it makes you feel better for a short while. But then you discover that you’ve gained even more weight.

This is what we call a vicious circle—in German it’s a “Teufelskreis”.

It’s a “continuing unpleasant situation, created when one problem causes another problem that then makes the first problem worse”, according to the Cambridge Dictionary.

How do I get out of this vicious circle? I don’t have any crisps in the house—only chocolate! And you?