„Thanks in advance“ – and why I stopped using it

I stopped using „thanks in advance„.

It seems polite, but it assumes the other person will say yes before they’ve had a chance to respond.

That can create pressure.

A better option:

„I’d really appreciate your thoughts on this.„

It’s warm without assuming an outcome. The other person still has room to agree, disagree or ask questions.

A small change, but it can make a request feel more respectful.

Quick win

Try it in your next email.

Replace „thanks in advance“ with „I’d really appreciate your thoughts on this“ and see how people respond.

💬 How do you end a request without sounding cold or pushy?